Step 1: Accept all yer shortcomings

I don't even need to say this because it's pushed down our throats by self-help gurus everywhere on the internet, but the majority of people are fucked.

They are all cooked and walking down the wrong path, because of one thing: Distraction.

You must accept the fact that you are distracted from your purpose, you must accept the fact that you chose detraction over work and now suffer the consequences, and you must accept the fact that you know this isn't right - it feel wrong... It feels empty.

I know because I've been there.

Lost, clueless and tired, I too, was distracted from purpose. I fell into bad habits, I fell into music addiction, I fell into the constant search for validation, I searched for anything to fill the leaking bucket that is life detached from purpose.

I was lost, and that led me down a spiral of hate toward myself.

Because when you are lost, you don't understand the path, and when you don't understand, you fear, and when you fear, you hate, and to hate the path is to hate life, and what are you, if not your life?

So, if you are lost, you will find yourself hating life - and yourself - sooner or later.

But I don't want to rag on you. I don't want to stay in this negative slandering any longer than I need to be. I want to help you.

Because now we understand and accept that most of us - and maybe you - are absolutely cooked, here is the FREE guide to reprograming your mind for: happiness, fulfilment, passion, peace, health, love, success; and most importantly, a life aligned with purpose.

Step 2: Get that outtaa here!

Get that shi outta you're life.

Bam bam bam, remove all the noise!

Constant music, endless scrolling, notifications, stimulation — it isn't just "annoying."

It's biologically destructive.

Studies show that this nonstop input raises your stress hormones like cortisol, fries your focus, and silently drains your cognitive power.

You're literally getting stupider because of all the noise. Understand that fully. You're brain is melting.

Your brain was never designed to handle 24/7 stimulation. Every sound, every swipe, every flash from a screen pulls energy from your system — energy you desperately need for clarity, creativity, and peace.

Even when you’re not fully aware of it, this noise disrupts your sleep, weakens your memory, and hijacks your emotions. You’re always half-alert, half-tired, half-present. That dull, numb feeling? That’s your nervous system trying to tap out.

So remove it all. Embrace the quiet.

Silence isn’t boring — it’s healing. Cut the noise, and you’ll feel your mind return to you.

And look, it doesn't take studies and science to understand this stuff. I only pulled it out because I gotta have some credit, but I knew all this stuff before I researched it.

It's not to brag. It's not to gloat.

I told you this because, whilst I will reference studies and pull facts, I believe scars and personal wisdom is the best way to teach.

I won't reference off some study if I don't believe it. And I won't share an anecdote meant as advice, if it doesn't have studies that prove it in some way or another.

Because here's the deal: Wisdom and Knowledge work hand in hand, not in opposition. So let's continue.

Times in life where everything was most quiet, were the times my purpose spoke to me the loudest.

And you'll only hear you purpose speak, if you let your subconscious (Emotional Child) breathe, and the way to give them space, is to cut the noise.

So here's a list of thing's to cut out for 30days, noise wise:

Ya porn
Ya music
Ya tiktoks, reels, short-form content in general
Ya fake friends (I'll make an essay on how to spot which friends are real)
Ya messaging apps and notifications in general (just have one and use it rarely)

Replace them with the sound of nature. Take walks and listen to the birds sing and the leaves rustle. Talk to your friends in person instead of on text. Practise being present.

Be present. Because that's where life lies - in the present.

Okay, now you're mind is quieter, time to make your living space cleaner.

CLEAN YOUR HOUSE.

Your living space is a reflection of your mind, clean your living space and your mind will follow.

That's pretty much it for step 2. Onto step 3.

Step 3: There may or may not be 3 yous... yeah sry about that

Oh and it gets confusing!

Before we even try to reprogram your mind, you kinda gotta realise there's sort of 3 of yous:

YOU
The Emotional Child
The Wisdom

Yep, you probably have never heard of those before, because it's something I made when exploring my mind and life. Some call it ego/id/superego, some call it the subconscious and conscious, I call it YOU, The Emotional Child, and The Wisdom

Because that's quite literally their function.

YOU, are the conscious mind, going about the day, reacting to events, unwittingly controlled by the Emotional Child.

The Emotional Child, if shunted and abused will cause trauma and insecurities. But if nurtured and loved will give you abundance of peace and confidence.

The Wisdom, is the sum of your life's lessons, mistakes, and knowledge, forged into a guardian of guidance. It is the you that shows when you comfort a friend or look after a child... or look after The Emotional Child

Now before you think I’m just pulling this outta thin air, let me back it up. What I call the Emotional Child is what countless psychologists refer to as the subconscious mind or inner child — the part of you shaped by early experiences, emotions, and core beliefs. Experts like Dr. Gabor Maté emphasize that unresolved childhood emotional pain lives on in the subconscious, quietly driving adult behaviour until it's healed. It reacts to fear, rejection, and shame without asking permission — and if ignored, it runs your life.

Meanwhile, the “YOU” in this model mirrors what Freud and modern psychology call the ego or conscious mind — your day-to-day awareness that tries to stay in control but often ends up just reacting to the emotional baggage underneath.

And the Wisdom? That’s what people like Carl Jung called the Self or the higher mind — the integrated, grounded, reflective part of you. When these three are disconnected, you’re in chaos. When they align? That’s purpose, peace, love, and real power!

So now what? Kaboom? Wallah, problem solved? No.

Knowing this is brilliant but lemme tell you how to utilize this, lemme tell you how to nurture yourself. Let me tell you how this piece of information is actually what's been holding many back...

You are YOU. The conscious mind, the ego, the operator. You go about your days - hopefully - trying to better yourself. You set a routine, you've got a goal, you meditate on your purpose, your visions are super high, and then....

ERRRR, KABOOM.

Crippling depression after nothing ever works.

Haha, laugh if you want but that's what's going to happen. You can only be so strong after withstanding so much defeat, never knowing why you're failing time after time. You can only take so much suffering for no reason before you die - emotionally, mentally, spiritually or physically.

And I'll tell you know: you're failing because of The Emotional Child. The subconscious, the part of your brain that takes up 95% of your consciousness. It secretly steers the ship, whilst you raise the sails thinking you're in control!

So what we finna do?

Well... simply pause and take a look at it. Take a look at you, the part of you that is The Emotional Child.

Can you see it's scars?

Can you see it's hurt?

Can't you see how hard it's been trying?

Can't you feel it? Can't YOU feel it?

All the guilt you feel when you relapse. All the shame you withstand when you don't meet expectation. All the ache you suffer alone and scared with no one to understand you?

YOU feel it, YOU suffer for it, so how can you not show empathy toward The Emotional Child whose underlying problems cause it? Because it is their wound that hinders your life.

So do yourself a favour. Show yourself some love. Show yourself some compassion. Show yourself kindness and indefatigable reliability - let The Emotional Child know you won't ever judge them again, and if you do, to apologise and show kindness.

Because that is yourself, that is the self that controls your life. And when you do show The Emotional Child kindness, it's showing YOU kindness too.

Here's some actionable steps towards this goal:

First, pause and acknowledge your feelings instead of ignoring or pushing them away. When anxiety, doubt, or pain arise, gently say to yourself, “I see you, Emotional Child. I know you’re hurting.” This simple act of recognition begins to build trust between the conscious YOU and your Emotional Child.

Next, listen without judgment. Take time to journal, meditate, or speak out loud to yourself. Let your Emotional Child express its fears, needs, and pain freely. Don’t rush to fix or criticize—just listen deeply. This helps uncover the root causes of your struggles.

Then, offer compassion and kindness. Imagine comforting a scared child and speak to yourself with gentle affirmations like, “You’re safe now,” “It’s okay to feel this,” or “I’m here for you.” Repeating these kinds of messages helps rewire your brain, replacing self-criticism with self-love.

Finally, set gentle boundaries. Your Emotional Child might react impulsively or out of fear, but as the conscious YOU, you can lovingly say, “I understand you’re upset, but I won’t let fear control my choices.” This balance builds resilience, helping you move forward with purpose without being ruled by old wounds.

ALRIGHT, once you comfort the heck out of your subconscious it will slowly heal. Some take weeks, others months, and for cases of trauma sometimes years. But it will heal slowly.

Step 4: Lets play: where's purpose?

ALRIGHT, once you comfort the heck out of your subconscious it will slowly heal. Some take weeks, others months, and for cases of trauma sometimes years. But it will heal slowly.

Now we can finally start to reprogram - I mean nurture. Much nicer word with more positive connotations. We can start to nurture the mind into a life of purpose, love and peace.

Start by gently exploring what you value. What do you love? What do you love doing and could do for hours on end? What's one thing, if taken away from others, would hurt you greatly?

Once you find a spark, why stop there? Light the whole fire!

Once you find something that strikes, meditate on it. Really dig into how it makes you feel and what exactly you can do about it. The more it can hurt you (let's say it hurts for you to see people without knowledge), the more it makes you feel alive (let's say it makes you feel alive to rebuild nature), or the more it makes you love yourself and the work you do more - the better.

Set a grand vision, something bigger than you could possible imagine achieving, because someone once told me, "if you shoot for the moon, you'll either hit bullseye, or find a better path next to the starts... or you know, float into the dark abyss endlessly and hopelessly, until you starve a cold, lonely death - make sure you know where you're going, am I right?"

You're very right, good sir. And, luck for you, you'll 100% know where you're going because you're following purpose. It may change, it may gain layers, you may momentarily lose sight of it, but it will be there, and it will bring you with it. You just have to be ripe and able enough to follow it's path.

So, once you've got your big vision. Make smaller steps. Super easy, super actionable, small steps.

Don't overanalyse your entire life and overthink it to death - play it chill, and just have fun.

And most importantly: keep your self-love and patience when you mess-up. Super important to practise self-love. It will get you anywhere you want... All in good time.

Keyword: Good. Because the time you live in most be good, you must love the present, and you must enjoy the path, for no goal for oneself is worth it, if you lose the one thing you own: the present. Do no sacrifice the only thing you own for something you do not even possess. It is more than possible to love the present and build a world for your purpose - in fact, if you have truly found your purpose, you will love the present, knowing this suffering is just a chance to move closer to your goal, just a chance to prove yourself worthy, and often times, the "suffering" is enjoyable.

Because, I say suffering, as that's it's definition. Work is suffering because of the loss of strength and energy, tasks are suffering because the mental hardships, heartbreak is suffering because of the emotional pain. But a lot of these "sufferings" have a bad reputation, and are actually things you can enjoy and appreciate. IF you let it.

Alright, I think that's all for now, onto step 5!

Step 5: Discipline is js love gang, believe it

You're going to need some sorta discipline. Whilst purpose will be your vision, and it will grant you major relieve from temptation and constant motivation, you will still face obstacle.

And you'll need to arm yourself with discipline. So here's what discipline is, and how to wield it:

Discipline isn’t punishment. It's protection. It’s the love you show to your future self — even when the current you is tired, emotional, or distracted.

But here’s the truth: you can’t force discipline out of shame. You can’t beat yourself into success. You can't demand yourself to work out of guilt. That’s just trauma with a productivity mask.

So how do you program real discipline? Discipline that sticks? Discipline that loves? Here's how I’ve done it, and how you can too:

1. Attach It to Emotion, Not Guilt

You’ve been trying to “be more disciplined” by saying stuff like:

“I just need to stop being lazy.”
Nah.

You don’t need more guilt. You need clarity on why you’re doing it in the first place.

Attach emotion to your vision. What would it feel like to finally wake up early and not hate yourself? What would it feel like to hold a body you’re proud of, or to create something meaningful and get paid for it?

If that vision doesn't make you emotional, it's not personal enough. You’re not going to war for a “goal.” You’re protecting the Emotional Child’s dream. Make it feel like love.

Make it feel like you're doing it for The Emotional Child, because you are. You are doing this so it won't suffer anymore, you are doing this so it (and YOU) can fulfil your purpose and find peace. Just realise true discipline is self-love.

Because what is suffering in the present so that you're future YOU and Emotional Child can flourish, if not the highest form of self-love?

2. Create Rituals, Not Just Routines

Discipline dies when it becomes a checklist.

What you need are rituals — symbolic actions that anchor your mindset. Here’s the difference:

• A routine is: wake up, brush teeth, do cold shower.
• A ritual is: wake up at 6 AM, light a candle, write down one promise to your future self, cold shower while whispering “I can endure this,” then walk outside and stare at the sky for 60 seconds.

Rituals feel sacred. They turn your habits into acts of devotion. That’s how you make discipline spiritual, not mechanical.

3. Set ‘Discipline Anchors’ in Your Day

Build 2–3 fixed “anchor points” in your day that you never negotiate with.

Example:

• Morning: Wake, make bed, gratitude (non-negotiable)
• Midday: 20-minute walk, no phone (non-negotiable)
• Night: Journal or read, 15 mins minimum (non-negotiable)

These anchors become your spine. Even if the rest of your day gets wrecked, these hold the structure.

Super important. You'll keep your head and self-respect if you have atleast 3 things you do everyday — and you will train discipline while at it.

4. Program with Compassion, Not Force

If you miss a day — DO. NOT. QUIT.

The Emotional Child is always watching. If you scream at yourself or say “ugh I’m a failure,” you’re teaching that inner child that they’re only lovable if they’re perfect.

Discipline doesn’t mean no mercy. It means you show up again — because you care about your future. It’s not a war. It’s a reunion.

It's patience with oneself.

5. Use the ‘One More’ Rule

When you feel like quitting, tell yourself: “Just one more.”

• One more push-up.
• One more page.
• One more clean decision.

This tiny trick builds mental strength like nothing else. It rewires your brain to associate discomfort with growth — not defeat.

(Note: Please don't use the One More Rule for bad habits. Because that is equally effective at fucking your life over as it is saving it.)

Bonus: Discipline Is Love in Action

When you protect your health, guard your focus, and fight your distractions — you’re showing love to your Emotional Child. You’re proving you won’t abandon them again.

Discipline becomes easier when it comes from the same place as healing, as care.

So go easy on yourself… but never go soft.

And a bonus bonus tip:

Your subconscious, your Emotional Child, is ALWAYS listening/watching. Always listening to how you speak to yourself, always listening to the negative words in music, always listening to how you treat others, always watching what you watch, always present - even in your sleep.

So be careful of what you give yourself, for you can only output what you input.

That's pretty much all, let's move on to our last step on thi-

Life's your kitchen, you're the chef, time to COOK

Student...

Yes master?

I've taught you everything you need to learn...

Wh-what?

The world is yours now...

What are you saying?? Master??

There's nothing I can teach you anymore... The rest of the lessons I have, they were part of my journey - my purpose. It doesn't hold value for you, for we will walk different paths. Student I taught you how to sharpen your knife, how to tie your shoe, how to forage for food... I taught you how to stay alive... But I can not tell you how to live... for my way to life is mine, and your life is yours. The only thing that can teach you how to live your life, is life.

Master...

NOW GO! Set free your mental bonds and catch lightning in a bottle for all that you wish! The rest is up to you....

Alright, on a serious note, there's nothing left to say. Once you remove distractions, find self-love, find peace and find purpose, practise discipline there's nothing left I can teach you. Because what I will be teaching you is how to follow MY purpose, when you should follow yours.

You're next teacher is Wisdom. Is life.

Many people on this world have their wisdom, and they will share it with the world. Their wisdom helped them, it followed and helped their Emotional Child. But be careful, not everyone's Emotional Child is as loved as yours, so the advice given by their Wisdom, may be skewed to fill the holes of their trauma.

But I think... even after saying that, there is one thing left I have to give you.

I have given you the manual to love, peace and purpose. But there's one more pillar, which you already know: Wisdom.

And I know I said you can only learn from life, and to be careful of others wisdom.

But even still, chewing on what you disagree with may strengthen what you already agree with. And whose to say you'll disagree with me! I like to think I'm pretty, you know! Pretty stable and not like, not swayed by emotion at all! How, how dare you think that I am not??

Haha, so yeah, I do have one last thing to give you: My Wisdom.

In forms of my essays, blogs, contemplations and philosophies.

Read them if you wish, take the lessons as you want, and live a life you desire!

And remember: true desire comes from purpose.

And you'll only find purpose.... Oh well from this guide of course! Read it again!